Love & doubt

A 6-week support and processing group for people who are struggling with relationship doubt, ambivalence, and the question of what to do next.

About

Maybe part of you wants to leave while another part desperately wants to make it work. Maybe you keep wondering if you’re asking for too much, settling for too little, or expecting something that doesn’t exist.

Maybe the relationship is good in many ways but something still feels missing—or you simply don’t know what you want anymore. Ambivalence often involves competing feelings, needs, fears, and desires that can be difficult to sort through alone. Together, we’ll explore your relationship, your history, and the patterns keeping you pulled in different directions.

The goal isn’t to tell you whether to stay or go, but to help you better understand what you want and why the decision feels so difficult.

what we’ll explore

week 1
State of the Union

Exploring your relationship as it exists today: what brought you here, what feels good, what doesn’t, where you feel stuck, and what you hope to understand over the next six weeks.

WEEK 2
Lessons in Love

Exploring past relationships and family dynamics—not to blame the past, but to identify what you’ve carried into the present. What did you learn about love, intimacy, conflict, commitment, and what relationships are supposed to look like?

week 5
If I Knew I Couldn’t Get It Wrong…

Exploring fear, fantasy, and the futures you’ve imagined. What would you be drawn toward if you weren’t afraid of regret, disappointing someone, hurting your partner, being alone, starting over—or discovering that the alternative isn’t actually better?

Exploring past relationships and family dynamics—not to blame the past, but to identify what you’ve carried into the present. What did you learn about love, intimacy, conflict, commitment, and what relationships are supposed to look like?

week 6
what do i do now?

After six weeks of looking inward, what feels clearer? What have you learned about your relationship—and about yourself? What questions remain? We’ll focus on developing your internal compass and identifying your next step, not forcing a final answer.

WEEK 3
Mine, Yours, and Ours

week 4
push&pull

Understanding the roots of ambivalence. Exploring attachment, intimacy, resentment, longing, and fears of abandonment, commitment, and making the wrong choice. What pulls you toward your relationship, and what pushes you away?

YOur guide

Carolyn Helfand, LCSW

Carolyn is a therapist who works with individuals and couples navigating major life transitions, relationship challenges, and questions around sex and sexuality.

She creates a warm, supportive, and informal environment where clients can be honest, vulnerable, and messy.

She believes therapy should be a space where you don’t need to have everything figured out or show up as the best version of yourself. Her approach balances clear boundaries with warmth, transparency, and genuine connection.

Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, stuck in a relationship, or unsure of what comes next, Carolyn helps you better understand yourself, your relationships, and what you want moving forward.

group schedule

Includes:

  • Six live group sessions

  • Weekly reflection exercises

  • A private space for group communication between sessions

  • A supportive community of people navigating similar transitions

6 weeks · 75 minutes per week · 6–8 participants

Cost $375

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • This is for anyone who loves their partner but isn’t sure if they want to stay in the relationship—whether you’re actively considering leaving, quietly wondering “what if,” or just want to better understand your own ambivalence.

  • No. This group is designed for people in the middle of deciding. You don’t need a clear answer—or even a leaning—to participate.

  • We’ll go beyond the day-to-day of your relationship. We’ll talk about your history, your values, attachment, intimacy, resentment, fear, fantasy, and what it means to imagine different futures.

  • That’s completely welcome. Wanting to understand your ambivalence doesn’t mean you’ve already decided to leave. You can hold hope, doubt, love, and uncertainty at the same time.

  • Yes, when relevant. Ambivalence often shows up in desire, intimacy, and connection with a partner, and we’ll make space for that.

  • You don’t have to. In fact, that uncertainty is one of the reasons this space exists. You can come without a plan or a neatly defined next chapter.

  • No. Whether you’re on the edge of a decision or just starting to admit the ambivalence is there, this group can meet you where you are.

  • No. You’ll be invited to participate, but you won’t be forced to disclose anything you’re not comfortable sharing.

  • The space is therapeutic and facilitated with psychological expertise, but it is not a replacement for individual psychotherapy or medical care.